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You may not believe, but to hold a full glass of water, take it to mouth, swallow the liquid that will quench your thirst, there is need to have confidence in yourself. This confidence is not present in consciousness. Being a well-known fact, nobody pays attention to it. The gesture is automatic. No one is thinking of every move what is made.

Quench the thirst involves a series of maneuvers that deserve considerations. So, let’s see, a person picks up the cup in the cabinet, goes to the refrigerator, removes the bottle, drinks water, washes the cup and put it back in the closet. Notice how many opportunities there are to have an accident. And what is more interesting, no one is calling for the slightest danger. Of course, the cup and bottle are of glass, simply one careless move, to fall and break. The consequences can range from loss of the glass and the bottle until the yeast serious. In the case of injuries, these can range from a minor cut to the skin to a significant injury severity, affecting tendons, nerves and arteries, causing permanent disability or not, according to the damage suffered.

At all times, the self-confidence must be present. A task of everyday life, however insignificant it may be, has to have their mandatory attendance. Self-confidence is not noticeable in normal activities because of their usual familiarity, therefore, not needing to be present in memory at any moment and is automatically implied.

To reinforce the importance of confidence in itself, serves as an example a person cutting the nails. Throughout its existence has trimmed the nails of all fingers with the pliers appropriate, without ever considering the possibility of injury, much less, to acquire a serious illness. However, it is remote, but possible. If someone would told him to sterilize the pliers, suggesting him to clean under his fingernails and disinfect their hands. Surprised at the barrage of recommendations, amazed he would ask, “Why?” The answer would come immediately. “You might get hurt and get tetanus.” Of course, he would laugh. He wouldn’t give the slightest attention. He would shrug, indicating that he didn’t believe in danger of acquiring a disease. On the other hand, if you request him to climb on the ledge of a window on the third floor of a building and stay there into balance, for one minute. Of course he would say: “Are you crazy? How do you make me this request?  Do you think I’m crazy?” Of course he would not perform such a feat. If the same request was made to a circus acrobat, he’d find grace and would believe it was a joke, because of such simplicity.

In the examples above, does not take much effort to understand the importance of self-confidence. In regards to cutting the nails and as regards the balance of the circus artist in the window, the self-confidence is not present prominently in the consciousness. However, the simple act of cutting the nails involves a potential risk with considerable severity. The same can be said for the professional who makes his living by challenging the law of gravity, when he is balanced on a window sill. In both situations, the possibility of contracting a serious disease and, the another, the plunging of the threshold of the window and crashing to the ground, nor frightens by not
passing in his mind that such unpleasant events may occur. The habit instilled confidence, ensuring security. Both do not need to be saying or remembering the need to carry out these procedures.

In the case of individual who never has balanced on the ledge of a window, the first feeling that arises is of fear. The idea of falling is readily apparent. In his way of thinking, is sure to fall. The sweat is cold, his hands tremble, the wobbly legs, a chill runs down his spine and he sees himself lain down there on the ground. He did not even think about venturing to climb up in the window.

Although the potential risk of getting sick by cutting the nails and falling from the window, are exactly alike, it is evident in the second hypothesis, the lack of confidence in itself is striking. The imagination instead of working for him, it acts against and he is viewed by himself in a dizzying fall.

In any enterprise that the person attaches a significant value, representing a challenge to reach the pinnacle of success, the first feeling that arises is that of fear. Something not very defined that arouses fear. The impression of failure appears vividly. The willingness to give up gradually grows stronger. The thought of not wanting to continue, starts hammering the mind so insistent. At this stage, he thinks that giving up the plans appears to be the best solution. In his thought he thinks that he’ll just have to put up with what has already achieved is the best solution. To think that God wanted this way, He knows what He does, it’s any consolation, a justification for him and for all who know him. A balm that eases the suffering of the claims not met. And a cross on the grave where lies the ambition of a right to be somebody in life.

Any withdrawal of achieving a goal is an aggression, or by specifying better, is an assassination attempt perpetrated against the self-confidence. The trauma is of such magnitude, that the feeling of self-esteem is shattered.

“Only you have the power to change the course of your life. It takes so little, and just to want and to act.”

Text taken from Chapter IV, “Confidence in Yourself – Pillar of personal excellence”, of the book of my own: “Believe! SUCCESS in life is for anyone. Even for YOU”

(*) Medical and Executive Director of the ”Sistema Raiz da Vida”, and

Autor:Dr. Edvaldo Tavares

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